If you’ve been following my blog, you know that on Fridays, I take a detour. Since today’s Friday, that’s what I’m doing…detouring.
What started me down the path was Friday follows — from Twitter. And, for whatever reason [and the way my mind works, sometimes there is no reason] Friday follows gave me the idea for Friday follies. So…on Fridays I just talk about my foibles …or what I refer to as my foil-ables, because I’m easily foiled at times… and whatever pops into my mind.
Sometimes it’s my diet — or lack thereof, sometimes my discipline– and lack thereof. Oh yes, and last week I talked about who really runs our house — the CATS!
This week what’s not off the table because it’s “politically incorrect” is sex when your partner has a cold. And, you guessed it, my husband has a doozy! oooooUuuuu…yuk! Coughing, sneezing, runny nose, watery eyes…the works!
Apparently, however, having a cold increases his need for snuggling…in direct proportion to the degree to which it decreases my need for snuggling. Normally, I like to hug, kiss. touch and hold hands. Stuff like that…and my partner’s kind of the same, but a little more reserved. When he has a cold, however, it seems to me he’s much more affectionate, and wants to share so much more…
So…when he has a cold… Do I want to snuggle? NO. Do I want to hug, kiss, touch and hold hands? NO.
Do I want my husband to feel well? Do I want to do our normal partner stuff when he’s well — hug, kiss, touch…Yes. Do I want to have sex when he’s well? YES.
Empathy and sympathy are not the same! I feel bad…I do…I really do. Just not bad enough to want to get up close and personal while he’s breathing cold germs all over me.
I do not want a cold. I do not want to be miserable just because he is!
Does that make me…selfish…a bad person? Well…maybe.
Not that I’m going to do anything differently…yet. But I did find some research that suggests I should consider it.
In a recent article titled “Hot Sex Treats Common Cold, from http://english.pravda.ru, the author states that:
“Majority of people consider even minor throat irritation or mild fever as a good-enough excuse to isolate themselves from their loved ones.” The article goes on to say:
“That is understandable, of course. Up until recently, this was regarded as a logical move. Not so long ago, however, scientists were able to prove just the opposite:
it is better to be sick together.
This obviously does not mean that one should purposely sneeze at his/her partner. In this case, the effect will be minimal. It is important to battle the disease. And as for microbes, hot passionate kisses and good sex is something they fear the most – concluded Manfred Schedlovski, a Swiss researcher from Zurich.
In the course of his lengthy neuroimmunological experiments, the scientist arrived at the conclusion that sexual intercourse has a positive effect not only on the overall physical condition of both partners but also on their immune systems. Phagocytes are to be praised for the marvel. Phagocytes are cells that help the body rid itself of various ailments. This is how they work: once they locate an alien body, they penetrate it and trigger self-destruction.
During sexual intercourse, number of phagocytes tends to increase significantly; oftentimes, number of these cells almost doubles after orgasm. This in turn enables these cells to detect and destroy antibodies more quickly.
Shcedlovski’s research results have already found support among his colleagues. Immunologist Peter Schleicher also shares the initial hypothesis of his colleague from Zurich. “Not only does sex heal our organism; it also sustains its immune system,” stated Peter Schleicher in his interview to Bild am Sonntag.”
OK. So…research says it’s better to be sick together. But…does “research” have to BE sick? Does research have to go through the runny nose, watery eyes, cough, sore throat, achy feeling of having a cold?
I think not.
So, at least for the time being, I’m holding onto my choice to stay at arm’s length until my husband’s feeling better. When the cold is gone.
Of course, the next time I have a cold and he does not…I may ask him if he’d like to help me increase my number of phagocytes.
What’s your opinion…to share or not to share? Wondering [or is that wandering] minds would like to know.