How to Stretch Your Possibility Thinking

What makes a good actor great? 

What makes a pianist a concert celebrity?

I’ll bet you know  the answer, don’t you?  It really isn’t that tough.  In fact…it’s really pretty simple.

It begins by doing something you love…then practice, practice, practice.   Then…it’s sharing it with others.  Sharing it with anyone and everyone…whenever and wherever you can until everyone is talking about how talented you are; about how lucky you are to have that talent and how good it is you’re doing so much with it.

You may be thinking at this point…yeah, right.  Sounds so simple…but…it doesn’t apply to me.  You may work at what you consider a dead-end job, one that you would give up in a heart beat if you could only just go do what you want to do. “If only…..”

Well…you can,  you know.

Just for a few minutes, take your mind to a place where you’re standing in the middle of a small barren field, and somehow while your field is barren, you’re surrounded by fields of green.  While you’re standing there, you’re thinking nothing will ever grow in your  field. You’re thinking “How come I always have such bad luck; how come I always get the short end of the straw?”

You wish you had the field right next door that you can see is lush with green grass…one that your neighbor rents out for horse pasture every year for a handsome amount.  But you don’t, and you can’t figure out why.

 What if you’re asking the wrong question? Do you…or any of the rest of us…ever stop to think that if we asked the right question…we already have the answer.  

That small barren field is where nearly every nearly successful person started.  I’m not talking about just being rich and or famous. I’m talking about being where we want to be in life…NOW!

Instead of wishing you owned the field next door…what if you just decided to make the grass green in your own barren field? What if you just decided that…no matter what it takes, you’re going to have green grass in your field…the exact kind of green grass, growing exactly the way you want it to?

If green grass is what you want, or if being a concert pianist is what you want, or if being a great actor is what you want…you can do it…once you decide to!

Preparation, practice, and action will give you what you want from life…including green grass.

So if you’re reading this, and recognize that you’re not exactly where you want to be in life, then you may choose this moment to start on the path to getting to where you want to be.

If you can see life as a path of many possibilities, you can probably also see some possibilities as better options than others. The “better option” possibilities, however, often don’t seem as clear, or the stepping stones seem further apart. To get on a better option possibility path, you generally have to begin by stretching your possibility thinking.

Here are 3 ways to start:

  • 1. Begin with big thinking. What do you want…really?
  • 2. If you now know what you want …why do you want it…seriously?
  • 3. Where do you want to see changes in your life…honestly?
  • Take a look at your answers. When you can truly see what you want and why you want it, and what changes are necessary to get you there, you can create the path to get you there, regardless of how big the space between the stepping stones may look initially.

    Stephen Covey called it “begin at the end” thinking. When you know what the outcome looks like, it’s easier to create the stepping stones for the path that will get you there.

    If you’re still thinking “Yeah, right…like I could get out of my situation and really do something different with my life,” then I recommend you go to the internet, enter “rags to riches” into a search engine, or “stories of inspiration.” If, from all of the field of information this generates, you can’t find something that helps you stretch your possibility thinking and gives you momentum to move forward, you may want to consider:

  • a)you’re happy where you are,
  • b)you’re more comfortable complaining than doing what you need to do,(/li)
  • c)you’re allowing fear to control your life.
  • If you decide after all that you’re simply happy where you are, enjoy it. It’s great…and better yet to recognize it! Not everyone needs or wants to be the President. Not everyone needs or wants to have millions of dollars or more cars in their garage than they could ever drive.

    And, if you’re a “complainer” and you’re OK with that, let it be so. Before change occurs, people complain. Then…someone takes action. It’s not necessarily the complainer, however, who takes that action. Some people will always prefer simply to be in the background…seeing the “wrongs” of the world, and “suggesting” what needs to be different, but doing nothing themselves.

    However, if fear is holding you back, continue to stretch your possibility thinking…a little every day…thinking about where you want to be, and why you want to be there…until you’re able to begin creating the stepping stones. Then practice, practice, practice taking the steps, one after the other, until you get you to the life you want…the life you deserve.

    “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” So begin already.

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